I’m ‘The Stented Papa’ – Ross to those who know me. I’m a 38 year old Dad of two beautiful girls, aka ‘The Nips’. Nip#1 is Mia, who just turned 5 and Nip#2 is Baby Elle who is nearly 2. I live in Dublin with my amazing partner of 8 years, Mel – aka ‘The Mrs’ who recently became my wife.
Recently my life changed, big time. In Nov 2015, I was told I’d ‘Multiple signs of Heart Disease in both sides of my heart’. Well…..Fuck, Shit, & Bollox.
Heart Disease runs in my family on my Dad’s side. Dad, all his siblings & his Dad (and I assume others before him) all have/had it. If you add their total number of By-Pass’s together, it would probably be longer than the M50!
I knew it was in the post, but at 37 it came as a big fucking shock if I’m honest. Things got very scary at times, the feelings I was getting in & around my heart and chest area where bloody frightening but on one particular evening I just knew something wasn’t right, so The Mrs brought me to A&E.
After getting checked out and one Angiogram later and I was told, ‘Yeah, you need a good bit of work there Ross, you’ll be staying with us overnight and we’ll see you back here tomorrow for few stents’.
I ended up needing 4 stents which where inserted into my heart during the Angioplasty the next day. It’s also possible I might need a fifth in the not too distance future. Fuck Me.
Let’s be honest here – I am a VERY lucky man to be alive, that is how I feel. I got a warning. Irrespective of age, CVD & CHD (in particular) does not give a flying fuck what age you are. If it’s in your genes, it’s in your genes and that’s that baby. One can only hope they get a warning like I did and not suffer a massive heart attack or stroke or worse, die – young or old.
After a while I went back to work when I was able to – or at least I thought I was able to.
Working with an amazing Irish start up called Pubble, I loved my job and loved working with the team. But no matter how hard I tried, I just could not focus and get myself back into it. My mind was consumed, my drive was gone (I was in sales) & my fire was out and in business development you need those qualities to be in check – there is no hiding place. My thoughts where elsewhere and after a long chat with The Mrs, I decided it was in all our interest for me to stand down. Tough after 5 years, really tough.
But here is the MoneyShot !! I get to spend quality time with my girls – be a role model, watch them (literally) grown in front of my eyes, teach them ‘stuff’ & let them teach me ‘stuff’ and most of all, have some serious fun. And that my friends, is what being a parent is all about.
So join me here on my journey as a new SAHD (Stay at Home Dad) as I blog (& vlog) the shit out of everything we get up to. So if you like what you read (or if you don’t), leave your comments & opinions, retweet & re-share my posts (please!), follow me and connect. Cheers.